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The Rise Of Domestic Violence Against Men – The Silent Scourge

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The Rise Of Domestic Violence Against Men – The Silent Scourge

Every human, regardless of age, cultural background or social status desires to be loved. It is our inherent nature.

Love as we know it comes in different forms. A parent’s love for their child, siblings love for each other and even one’s love of one’s self. These are all shades of love but there is a greater desire to connect with and love someone other than yourself on a deeper level. This love is physical, emotional, mental and even spiritual. And when you find love, it can be the most magical feeling in the world. Wars have been fought and lost over this kind of love. There is even a whole day set apart on the calendar to celebrate this kind of love.

When we find love, we want it to last forever. For some people, it does last forever in that happily ever after type of way. But for some others, this love that they find quickly descends into a nightmare that they would not have conceived even in their worst dreams…domestic violence.

Domestic violence in Nigeria is not a growing trend. It is something that has been woven into the very cultural fabric of our society. What we are seeing now is a case of heightened awareness.

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Yes, Men Too Can Be Targets

The subject of domestic abuse against women that was previously discussed in hushed tones is now being loudly debated circles in where victims can be heard. What is surprising however, is the rise in cases of similar abuse against men in Nigeria.

There are government agencies in Nigeria set up to support women who have been victims of domestic violence but the same cannot be said for men who have suffered similar fate. Currently, there are no domestic violence statistics available to refute this gender bias. But, as more cases are being highlighted by the media, it is clear that men are also at the receiving end of domestic violence.

 

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Alarmingly, there has also been recorded incidents of domestic violence against children perpetrated by the adults who are meant to protect. But this is topic for another day. Today, the focus is on domestic violence against men and women.

I see domestic violence as a social problem that must be promptly addressed. And while government agencies and people in power are working towards implementing both social and legal reforms that would go a long way in fixing the problem, we as individuals have a role to play as it starts with us. In the famous words of President Muhammed Buhari, we have to be the change that we want to see. This sets the tone for the 3-step plan to combating violence

  1. Love yourself

This seemingly simple phrase holds the key to experiencing true love. If you cannot love yourself, it would be very easy to interpret every display of affection whether healthy or unhealthy as love. I have heard women say things like, “He beats me because he loves me”. In the case of men, I have heard things like, “that is just how she expresses herself”.

To the average person, these statements make no sense. But for someone who constantly berate and abuse themselves both mentally and emotionally, a physical expression of the same attitude is no different. If you don’t love yourself, you put yourself in a situation where you either enable abuse or you become the abuser. You cannot give what you don’t have. You simply cannot.

You can start this process by getting to know yourself. Close your inner ear to other people’s opinion of you or the society’s expectation of you. The journey to self-discovery can be an exciting one if you are brave enough to pursue it. If you have anger issues, face it head on. Ask yourself why you are so angry all the time.

And if it appears to be something that you cannot handle alone, get the help you need. Gone is the era when men were expected to “man up” and bottle it inside. Let it all out and cry. And when you are done, find healing for yourself.

For the woman, crying and being vulnerable does not make you any less of a feminist than your placard carrying counter parts. Embrace your pain, let it out and find healing. Purge yourself of these negative emotions and come to a place where you are at peace with yourself.

This process may not be an easy one, but I promise you, it will be worth it.

TO BE CONTINUED…

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The governor of Anambra state, willie Obiano, during a visit to Sirika in Abuja, announced that the state’s cargo airport would be inaugurated in April 2021.

The Governor of Anambra state, Willie Obiano has  announced that the state’s cargo airport would be inaugurated in April 2021.

On the Anambra airport, Obiano said the facility would be set for inauguration in April 2021 and that the state would be honoured to have Sirika perform the task.

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Minister of aviation, Hadi Sirika, announced this on Tuesday in a tweet via his official twitter handle.

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Air Peace Evacuates 312 Indian Citizens

Air Peace has evacuated 312 Indian citizens from the international wing of the Murtala Muhammed Airport (MMA), Lagos to Kochi in India. After evacuating 301 Chinese citizens on Thursday.

This is just as the government of India celebrated the first direct flight from Nigeria.

According to the verified twitter account of Indians in Nigeria, @india_nigeria, the “repatriation of India nationals from Nigeria began today (Sunday) with the Lagos-Kochi Air Peace flight with 312 passengers. It is the first ever Nigerian airline to fly directly to India.”

The Indians in Nigeria commended the Nigerian government, the Indian Embassy in Nigeria and others that made the flight a reality.

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According to information from the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN), Air Peace flight P47812 pushed back by 1:15 am Nigerian time with 312 passengers and 15 crew members and was airborne at 1:28 am.

Air Peace in a statement said that the 10-hour non-stop flight from Lagos to Kochi was operated with a B777 aircraft with registration number 5N-BWI.

The flight, operated by 15 crew members, the airline said was expected to arrive Cochin International Airport in Kerala.

The Chief Operating Officer of the airline, Mrs. Oluwatoyin Olajide, who expressed delight over the evacuation flight, thanked the Indian authorities for engaging Air Peace to operate the flight, while also giving kudos to the Nigerian government for supporting the airline in all its special flights during the lockdown.

She added that the airline alongside other relevant government agencies ensured that all the passengers complied with established health protocols before boarding.

“It can be recalled that on Thursday, May 28, 2020, Air Peace embarked on an evacuation flight of 301 Chinese nationals and flew back 268 stranded Nigerians from China on Saturday,” the statement added.

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Air Peace evacuates 301 Chinese citizens from Nigeria

On Thursday night, AIR Peace evacuated Chinese citizens from Nigeria to China through the Murtala Muhammed International Airport (MMIA) Lagos at about 2205hrs.

The airline carried out the evacuation with its Boeing 777-300 with registration 5N-BWI which airlifted 301 passengers on board taking 24 crew members.

The Nigerian carrier evacuated the Chinese from Lagos to Guangzhou Baiyun International Airport, China’s most populous, commercial city.

The evacuation which was arranged by the Chinese government took off about 10: 00 pm Nigerian time and arrived at about 1:15 pm Nigerian time on Friday.

The Nigeria carrier was also the airline that evacuated Israelis living in Nigeria late March and has been contacted by other countries for evacuation operations.

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Spokesman of the airline, Stanley Olisa confirmed the successful flight and said, Air Peace on Thursday, May 28, 2020, operated its second flight to China as “we evacuated 301 Chinese nationals back to their country. The flight departed the Murtala Muhammed International Airport Lagos at exactly 22:05hrs to Guangzhou Baiyun International Airport, China. Countries have been contacting us to evacuate their citizens.”

The Regional Airport Manager, South West, Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN), Mrs. Victoria Shin-Aba said the flight: P47807 pushed back from the Echo terminal of MMIA at 21:40hrs with 325 souls onboard – 301 Chinese evacuees and 24 crew members.

She explained that all relevant government agencies like FAAN, Nigeria Immigration Service, Port Health Services officials and others were fully on ground to success of the evacuation exercise.

Air Peace is slated to carry out more evacuation operations for other nationals living in Nigeria, as the airline and other domestic operators gear up to resume scheduled flight operations soon.

There are indications that commercial flight operations would resume early June, as the Nigerian Civil Aviation Authority (NCAA) has started auditing airlines in preparation for scheduled passenger service.

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